In our “Where did you learn about sex?” poll,
we found that:

Our follow up poll, “How old were you the first time you masturbated” found that


These two polls reveal some interesting findings when looked at side by side.

The majority of respondents admitted to teaching themselves. Many people talk about their initial experience of experimenting ‘down there’ and feeling some amazing sensations. However, it’s also common to hear people admit to feeling a certain ‘guilt’ that they were doing something wrong. This could stem from a religious upbringing that discourages any sexual contact – either with yourself or others, or from old wives tales that purport you’ll go blind if you indulge in any form of masturbation.

As a result, many children carry these feelings into adulthood believing they violated rules which can also lead to feelings of guilt or shame later in life that might manifest in unhealthy attitudes toward sex, masturbation, and sex toys.

We’re here to tell you that there’s nothing to be ashamed about. Masturbation is a healthy and very important step towards understanding your own body, and in fact, it’s the single most important step to take when trying to achieve orgasm. If we don’t know what makes ourselves feel good no one else can do it for us.

Many women are socialized to think it’s their partner’s responsibility to figure out how to please them.  “Someday my prince will come and so will I” is one of my favorite quotes about this topic. It essentially says, “When the right guy comes, he’ll KNOW exactly what to do to turn me on, but the truth is until you spend time alone figuring out your own body, no one else can do this work for you.

In the “Where did you learn about sex” poll it’s no surprise that 25% of respondents reported that they learned about sex from their friends more than any other source. In recent years there’s been much debate over teaching sex education in schools as well as a decrease in funding for such classes.

Learning about sex and what makes you feel good is a life long process, so even if you feel challenged by your current knowledge, we’re often our best teachers. So remember to experiment, experiment, experiment!

Never had an orgasm?  Try one of our popular beginner vibrators like Beginners Vibe Pleasure Kit or Aphrodite Vibrator so you can spend some time experimenting on your own.  Plan a date night with yourself: draw a bath, light candles, and begin to explore your own body. You just might find that the answers will come and so will you.