After having three children, I don’t feel that my vagina is as tight as it used to be and worry if I am still pleasing my husband. I have seen ads for vaginal tightening creams but wonder what they contain and what they actually do. Do they really do anything?
While the vagina can loose some elasticity from aging and the loss of hormones, and even become somewhat stretched from childbirth, it is probably not as bad as you think. Unless your gynecologist or husband has told you there is a problem, you are almost certainly within the normal range of tightness. When men talk about a woman being tight what they are usually experiencing is a woman who was not terribly aroused. With arousal, the vagina balloons and lubricates, easing penetration. The vagina is a virtual space that is designed to expand and contract around objects of multiple sizes.
Vaginal tightening creams contain one of three things:
- Nothing. Basically the ingredients are a mixture of herbs, scents, and some sort of gel. They don’t do anything.
- Benzocaine. This serves to numb the woman. With decreased sensation, she is less likely to lubricate and her vagina will feel subjectively tighter. You can probably guess how I feel about this option.
- Alum. These most often come in douche form and contain a chemical that tightens and contracts the walls of the vagina. Although FDA approved for this purpose, I don’t recommend this approach. It can be irritating, cause yeast infections, and is usually unnecessary If you really want to try it, at least make sure you are buying a formula specifically designed for this purpose. I don’t recommend it except in the most extreme of cases.
What I would recommend is performing Kegel exercises. Whether or not you are experiencing loss of elasticity, these exercises can be a great way to get in touch with your body, strengthen some very important muscles, and maybe even make you more orgasmic. Now, isn’t that better than a bottle of cream?
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